Chat Between Chapters: Dating a Real Life Christian Grey?

August 31, 2014 Chat Between Chapters, Featured Posts 25


 Are there any traits that you find attractive in a book boyfriend, but would NEVER fly in a real life boyfriend? Would you really want to date any of your favorite book boyfriends in real life???

Julie Review Avatar Julie:

I love the title of this post. Because really, no I would not want to date a real life Christian Grey. No thank you. Stalkerish controlling type? Not my thing. Also, all those bad boys of NA romance, not interested in them either. I don’t need a boy with more emotional baggage than a teenage girl. Some of the swoon-worthy boys in books are just fun because they’re boys in books, not boys in reality. I don’t really want to be babysitting anyone’s crazy in real life heh. I want a more balanced and adjusted partner in life. Tell you what though, Jamie Fraser, if he were a modern-day Jamie, might be another story. He’s about perfect heh.

Rose review avatar Rose:

So let’s star with my all time fave go to book boyfriend…. Jamie Fraser. Would I really want to date him… well YES! So long as Claire was firmly out of the picture that is. Jamie is attractive, charming, kind, brave, sexy, smart, i could go on forever. Even though he is “old school” when It comes to certain things, he is fair and kind and open minded enough to make exceptions. That’s really quite nice. I would NEVER in a 1000 years want to date Christian Grey or Edward Cullen or Travis Maddox. These types of book boyfriends are nice to read about, but I would never want to get mixed up with them in real life. Book boyfriends like Lucas Maxfield, Josh Bennett, Dean Holder, Evan Mathews, Will Cooper,  etc… I would LOVE to date! One I am not so sure about is Alexander Barrington from The Bronze Horseman. I really like him as a book boyfriend, but as a real life boyfriend, I think he might get on my nerves with his over protective and controlling behavior, like Christian Grey would. However, not meaning to sound like a wimpy book heroine, if the real Alex Barrington walked up to me and showed interest, I would probably be unable to resist him. Sigh. So now we know why THAT happens…

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25 Responses to “Chat Between Chapters: Dating a Real Life Christian Grey?”

  1. Berls @ Fantasy is More Fun

    Hmmm – so he’s a billionaire and sexy as hell, so maybe? Probably not, because the drama really isn’t something I’m in to. Maybe a few dates? LOL

    The thing about book boyfriends is that they all have their flaws, but it’s like they got to be gorgeous as all hell and sometimes rich, so they came with some of the most hard-to-deal with flaws in exchange. Meanwhile our guys have their flaws, too, but they are dealable. Because in exchange, they aren’t drop dead gorgeous and rich. Most are ordinary, even the more attractive ones wouldn’t match up to Christian/Jamie/etc.
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    • Julie

      I think you make a really good point there! Book boyfriends are very flawed and some of their issues are really hard to deal with. Our RL boys aren’t perfect, but much easier to stomach lol

  2. Brenda @DailyMayo

    I’m trying to think who I would date in real life. Sam Gamgee, most likely. From a popular book lately, maybe the boy from If I Stay? He seems nice. Thanks for linking up to Quote Me Thursday!

    • Julie

      I am with you on that. I’m hoping that’s just a product of his time and a modern day Jamie wouldn’t ever dream of it.

    • Rose

      i do not condone violence either… i think it is safe to say a modern day Jamie would be different.

  3. Leila @ LeilaReads

    Swoon. Jamie Fraser is the ultimate book boyfriend, you ladies have got that right. I think he’s the only one I would actually want to be with. I was literally truly madly deeply in love with him when I read Outlander for the first time (I was 12). And I completely agree that there are many book boyfriends that are fun to read about and nightmares to live with. I don’t think anyone in their right mind would really consider dating a real-life Christian Grey.
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    • Julie

      Wow that’s quite the book to read at 12, bet he ruined all future book boyfriends for you for life!

    • Rose

      Wow. Yeah. Jamie is a lot to take in a 12. So no future book boyfriend could ever live up to that!lol you poor

  4. Charlotte @ Thoughts and Pens

    Christian Grey for a boyfriend? Well, the materialistic side of my personality is screaming for YES! OMG! He’s a billionaire, he could could provide me with all the things that I want…

    But kidding aside, there’s just no way that I’m going to be attracted with a guy like Christian Grey. I love broken book boyfriends but in real life, I want them funny, easygoing, and has a personality that doesn’t take a genius to crack.

    And as for your first question, I definitely like uberly handsome and macho book boyfriends but I don’t think I could handle them in real life. Instead of loving them as a real person, I might worship them as deities. Bwahahahaha. Not healthy at all.
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    • Julie

      The last thing you said made me chuckle, but you’re right – if they look too dang good to be real, we won’t treat them as real people.

    • Rose

      Yeah, I would probably not handle a super hot boyfriend well either. (Good thing the real bf never reads this, he would be all like, “What, I am not hot?” think Heath Ledger in Ten Things I Hate About You “What? you don’t think I am pretty?”) I would be all kinds of worried he would leave me for a hotter chic. I would make myself miserable.

  5. Faye @ The Social Potato

    A real life Christian Grey would get a knuckle sandwich first before he gets anything done with me. I totally do not want a controlling dude such as him in my life. NOPE NOPE AND NOPE. I want someone who’s funny, laid-back, and friendly. And someone who doesn’t murmur! LOL I’ve read until chapter 2 of 50 shades, and I noticed Grey kept murmuring stuff. That isn’t hot ._.
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    • Julie

      LOL! Yea I don’t think he’s anyone’s impression of a good book boyfriend. But what about other book boyfriends you’ve read about? This topic is broad 🙂

      • Rose

        Whoa, wait, he is a good book boyfriend. He would not make a good real life boyfriend. *** Difference ***

  6. Terri M. LeBlanc

    “I don’t need a boy with more emotional baggage than a teenage girl.”
    Amen, sister, amen!

    I love my book boyfriends to be well-rounded, outgoing, loving and educated. Probably why I find Jamie from Outlander and Bill from the Sookie Stackhouse novels (not the True Blood Bill–he’s so DIFFERENT) so appealing. Good looks don’t hurt a thing either, right?
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